After having our son three years ago, I have wanted to lose weight. During my pregnancy, I gained 60 pounds. Great American Cookie everyday during pregnancy sounded like a good idea at the time, but I'm still paying for it. And paying for it. I don't have much self control these days, and it doesn't help that my husband spoils me. For me, 2014 was a year of ifs. If I just lose this weight, I'll be happy. If I just gain self control, I can do many things. If I just spend more time cleaning, everything would stay clean. I've learned that, for the most part, ifs aren't what changes you. I can't gain self control by telling myself "if" this. So, with the start of 2015, I'm to change those "ifs" to "whens," and I'll change my wants to reasons. When I lose the weight, I will be healthier . When I learn to respect myself , I'll be happy. When I regain my self control, I will teach my son healthier ways . You see